tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-75106186529436582992024-03-13T09:49:11.294-04:00life: bk garden aptlive. breathe. bk heart.Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12494050453704062429noreply@blogger.comBlogger255125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7510618652943658299.post-41896652240655685652014-08-02T09:33:00.001-04:002014-08-02T09:33:44.251-04:00Time Well Spent<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12494050453704062429noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7510618652943658299.post-39065679893504879882014-07-30T19:27:00.000-04:002014-08-02T08:53:48.266-04:00It's All in the Timing<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12494050453704062429noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7510618652943658299.post-78179566863304884462014-07-29T23:17:00.000-04:002014-08-02T02:21:34.795-04:00One Day Last Year<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12494050453704062429noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7510618652943658299.post-62176752509962374802014-07-26T01:03:00.002-04:002014-07-26T10:16:01.089-04:00Eyelashes<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12494050453704062429noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7510618652943658299.post-76728328319841303752014-04-20T10:35:00.000-04:002014-07-26T10:36:14.452-04:00Pasta and Lamb<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
Roxanne and I spoke about it at therapy on Wednesday, she reminded me that I had to work through the grief when it hit me that I'm still in transition.<br />
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This is the first Easter without Dad, and the last Easter at my childhood home.<br />
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Last Easter, after months of Dad saying how much he wanted lamb I made a reservation at Tanoreen in Bay Ridge -- a Middle Eastern restaurant known for its various lamb dishes and highly rated by Zagat, Yelp and others. Easter was early that year at the tail end of March. Initially it was going to be just my dad and I. With the India trip just a month away, I decided to invite Advaitha to join us.<br />
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The three of us sat at a round table in the center of a boisterously loud room. Dad was subdued. Looking back I realize he had surrendered conversation because of the inability to hear, something he grappled with as he aged. I think also that his frustration over the noisy patrons was a direct result of his annoyance toward me for not choosing an Italian restaurant. It wasn't until we were seated with water glasses filled and menus in hand that he mentioned wanting pasta and lamb.<br />
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Pasta and lamb. Pasta and lamb is Italian. The choices are endless in our neighborhood. It would have been an easy fix even if it was Easter. One year later, it makes me sick to my stomach that I didn't gather him up and take him elsewhere.<br />
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It's a silly form of regret, I know. I was a good daughter and some days I could have been a better one. Oddly those days are the ones that creep back first. Flashes of my impatience and short-temper unleashed, the moments where my cocky arrogance spewed condescension...no good comes from that kind of reminiscing but its impression lingers still. <br />
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12494050453704062429noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7510618652943658299.post-59259695103042056252014-04-18T19:23:00.001-04:002014-04-18T22:25:37.922-04:00Lost in Transition<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
Here's the thing about grief...you never know when it's going to hit you, what will trigger a change of heart, a change in mood. One minute you're fine, the next, not so much. Maybe it was the fresh air or the restless sleep from last night catching up to me or maybe it was the wine. Whatever it was, it hit me this afternoon. One minute I'm concentrating on framing the picturesque landscape with my camera and the next I'm retreating into my thoughts, quiet as a mouse in the tour van. I excused myself from the afternoon activities to relinquish this hollow feeling. It's hard to do when you're with friends and they're raring to go sightseeing and shopping but it's the right thing to do for them and for yourself. And it's much easier pawing through it when you're alone and the only thing that makes sense is sitting by the fire with a hot cup of coffee. <br />
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Lost in transition, any one of us going through loss, picking up the pieces...until we work through it, we are in this state of uncertainty, in limbo. There's no shortcut to healing your heart, no magic potion to make the pain go away. The only way to get through it is to face grief head on. Some people don't get it though. They ignore the pain, think it will disappear if they don't pay any attention. Some people act on impulse, make decisions without thinking of the consequences. Others get angry or fall into despair, and still some act like the grief doesn't exist, like nothing's wrong. We all know someone like that but you can't hide from grief, it finds a way in whether you realize it or not.<br />
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Grief is not easy, if anything at all, it's scary and it doesn't matter how many times you go through it. If only we talked more about death before it happened. What it means when death happens to the old, to the young, what it means for those of us left behind. Falling in love is rare, death on the other hand <a href="http://www.romans322.com/daily-death-rate-statistics.php" target="_blank">happens every second of every day</a>.<br />
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When death takes someone that we love, when it hits close to home and we can feel the grief settling in...we find ourselves standing still but also moving forward.<br />
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12494050453704062429noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7510618652943658299.post-89228266265466264002014-03-30T01:19:00.001-04:002014-03-30T01:21:08.996-04:00Past Lives and Connections<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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There were about twenty-two of us in the room listening to <a href="http://cathytowle.wordpress.com/cathy-towle-bio/">Cathy</a>, a psychic
medium and transformation expert, and <a href="http://www.andrew-brewer.com/">Andy</a>,
a clairvoyant and astrologer, introduce themselves.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>This session was part two of an <a href="http://bkgardenapt.blogspot.com/2014/03/unlocking-intuition.html" target="_blank">intuitive workshop</a> the pair
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session, I didn’t know anyone in the room and didn’t know what to expect. I
believe that there is more to this universe than what we can see. I believe
that there is a higher power, a god if you will. I believe in the possibility
of a spirit communicating from the great beyond, and I know from experience
that it can happen. A month or so after my mom passed, she came to me in a
dream—her presence was so strong it jarred me awake and I saw her sitting at
the foot of my bed. There have been other instances too, where I’ve felt a
presence guiding me or acting on my behalf—</span><span style="color: #444444; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">like the time I almost fell asleep
at the wheel and felt something press my foot on the brake. It’s with this open
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he said the name again, no one else in the room flinched. That’s when I first
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someone’s past life and Cathy sharing communications from the spirits lingering
in the room to their loved ones seated around me.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>When a catch phrase or word struck a chord I would jot them
down in my notebook, and throughout the evening it felt as if my pen never
quite left the page. At one point, I looked down to find a quarter of the page
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thoughts while on the phone with friends or filling out the crossword puzzle,
there would inevitably be doodles in the margins of whatever piece of paper was
nearby. I hadn’t thought about that in a long time, and yet the memory is
crystal clear. A yellow and green #2 pencil, slightly worn, the hazy gray
sheets of the <i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">Daily News</i>, Mom
drinking her coffee in a signature Morton’s Salt themed coffee cup, poring over
the clues. </span></div>
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<span style="color: #444444; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">“Your heart chakra is glowing a neon green,” Andy says, and
then asks me what era in time I resonate with most. “The 1940s,” I reply and it
opens a floodgate about my past life as a 1940s French film star who rallied
for the underdog and played a part in the underground resistance during WWII. I
couldn’t help but smile.</span><span style="color: #444444; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"> </span></div>
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<span style="color: #444444; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">“I bet you’re a champion for your friends, too,” he
continued. Next he talked about my “benevolent energy” and the strength of my
third chakra, the center of self-esteem, and how it had been recently tested.
“Know that you cannot be pushed.” It was a reaffirmation from the hell of last
week that I can and will persevere.</span></div>
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<span style="color: #444444; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Near the close of the evening, I learned that my mom had a
very strong presence in the room. Cathy wanted me to know that she had always
been around and would continue to be around, to support and guide me. Cathy
asked me if we were close and I told her yes that we were very tied to each
other both as mother/daughter and as friends.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>She acknowledged that it was the nurturing of the intuition
that tied us, and was at the root of our strong bond. It was surreal hearing
those words but also distinctly comforting, I could feel her presence
holistically. </span></div>
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12494050453704062429noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7510618652943658299.post-80916940157629178912014-03-29T23:50:00.000-04:002014-03-30T01:20:18.731-04:00Unlocking Intuition <div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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<span style="color: #444444; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">This week was a different kind of intense with disconnected
communications at work to the fluctuating temperatures of a winter season that
refuses to let go. It was very draining and stirred up a vortex of emotion. Add
that to the current state of uncertainty that I’ve been dealing with these past
few months, it was no surprise that Friday night was spent vegged out on the
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contemplating attending the evening session as well. Both events explored how
to nurture intuitive communications, something I’ve been longing to get back in
touch with. As a child, I had always been tapped into my intuition but in
recent years the connection has been a bit faulty. </span></div>
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<span style="color: #444444; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Intuition identifies your
true heart and with practice can assist with your life’s journey—it has many synonyms but most people refer
to it as listening to your gut. It’s a gift my mom and I shared, and in earlier
days, I actively nurtured it with my writing, through yoga, and art classes. I
have fond memories of attending workshops and classes, participating in a women’s
circle where we shared life stories seated around a burning sage bush, learning
meditation and occasionally walking the labyrinth in Union Square. All these
activities brought with them a sense of calm and peace, and I wanted to
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<span style="color: #444444; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">That’s how I found myself in Windsor Terrace this afternoon,
searching for the <a href="http://www.prospectrange.com/Prospect_Range/Home.html">Prospect Range</a>
in the pouring rain. The workshop, “Using Intuition in Business and Life, A
Pathway to Creativity and Abundance” was led by <a href="http://cathytowle.wordpress.com/cathy-towle-bio/">Cathy Towle</a>, a
psychic medium and transformation expert, and <a href="http://www.andrew-brewer.com/">Andrew Brewer</a>, a clairvoyant and
astrologer. The 2-1/2 hour workshop was an <a href="https://www.facebook.com/events/1425523001029438/?ref_dashboard_filter=upcoming">interactive
discussion</a> about how to sharpen your intuitive skills to empower yourselves
creatively and with instinct to ultimately manifest change. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span></div>
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The flight attendant's voice on the intercom is garbled, as if I'm on a Manhattan-bound subway car. The plane is full and tiny, 21 rows deep, 4 seats wide with a sloped ceiling where anyone over 5'7" has to stoop to get into the carriage and to their seat. The flight is uneventful and less than two hours later we arrive to a snow-covered runway. The snow fury is marking its passage every which way. The terminal is deserted and I make my way through the concourse on an inter-terminal airtrain. The baggage claim and ground transportation are accessed by a set of escalators, where only one is in service. There is a gurney at the top of the non-moving escalator, and although my mind registers it I'm too tired to process what that could mean. </div>
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As I step onto the escalator and make my way down it all becomes clear as the firefighters and EMT crew come into view. They are assisting an elderly gentleman who had fallen face forward onto the escalator. He could have been Dad's age, or younger, and he is battered and bruised, and seemingly alone. His injuries are visible and worrisome, a huge bump on his head, blood running down his forearms. I can't help but think of Dad's accident, the similarities uncanny. Flashes of his own fall, the blood on the landing, the EMTs examination, his insistence that he was fine. A guy standing behind me points out that you can never be too sure of what the repercussions of a fall like that could mean, "most folks that age are on blood thinners." I shuddered, remembering all too well. </div>
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At the bottom of the staircase, the baggage claim is hopping with passengers, queued up at the American Airlines help desk. The DoubleTree shuttle is just outside, where slush of a different kind is piling up. A family of four from Massachusetts joins me in the van. They are making their way to Disney World in Orlando, this is their second flight in as many days, the final one tomorrow will hopefully get them closer to the sun, just like me. </div>
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12494050453704062429noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7510618652943658299.post-33105550175499904612014-02-14T16:26:00.001-05:002014-02-14T16:26:41.126-05:00Snow fury and contemplation...<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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<span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: Arial; font-size: 15px; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">I’ve questioned my sanity these last few days as I try to make my way to a sunnier locale in the middle of this godforsaken snow fury hitting the eastern seaboard. Do you remember </span><a href="http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0080801/" style="text-decoration: none;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: #1155cc; font-family: Arial; font-size: 15px; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; text-decoration: underline; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">The Gods Must Be Crazy</span></a><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: Arial; font-size: 15px; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">? It was a movie released back in the 80s, that’s sort of how I feel right now. </span></div>
<b id="docs-internal-guid--c887d61-324a-e77c-610b-af05e88aa956" style="font-weight: normal;"><br /><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: Arial; font-size: 15px; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"></span></b>
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<span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: Arial; font-size: 15px; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">I was supposed to leave yesterday morning, which means I would have already been acclimated to the balmy equatorial climate of Cancun, nearly adjusted to the refreshing sea salt in the air. Instead I’ve been sequestered in my apartment, wearing fluffy pajamas and going stir crazy as I bide my time until a night flight to Cincinnati. </span></div>
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<span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: Arial; font-size: 15px; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">Yes Cincinnati as in the hometown of the fictional </span><a href="http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0077097/" style="text-decoration: none;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: #1155cc; font-family: Arial; font-size: 15px; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; text-decoration: underline; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">WKRP radio station</span></a><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: Arial; font-size: 15px; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">. I’ll have an 8-hour layover before I fly to Mexico, and unfortunately it’s an overnight so I won’t be able to visit any of the </span><a href="http://www.cincinnatiusa.com/attractions/index.asp" style="text-decoration: none;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: #1155cc; font-family: Arial; font-size: 15px; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; text-decoration: underline; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">recommended points of interest</span></a><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: Arial; font-size: 15px; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">. As luck would have it the Doubletree where I’ll be staying straddles both Ohio and Kentucky so I’ll be missing out on exploring two states instead of just one. I guess I’ll have to mark them off </span><a href="http://bucketlist.org/list/apreziotti/" style="text-decoration: none;"><span style="background-color: transparent; color: #1155cc; font-family: Arial; font-size: 15px; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; text-decoration: underline; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;">my bucket list</span></a><span style="background-color: transparent; color: black; font-family: Arial; font-size: 15px; font-style: normal; font-variant: normal; font-weight: normal; text-decoration: none; vertical-align: baseline; white-space: pre-wrap;"> another time. </span></div>
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12494050453704062429noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7510618652943658299.post-66103907052028056842014-01-23T00:44:00.001-05:002014-01-23T00:49:11.105-05:00Remembering Mama (and Daddy, too)<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
<a href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-SW3pp4tWplo/UuCr76YCzpI/AAAAAAAAR64/PlJBWerFh2s/s1600/me+and+mom.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-SW3pp4tWplo/UuCr76YCzpI/AAAAAAAAR64/PlJBWerFh2s/s1600/me+and+mom.jpg" height="198" width="320" /></a>Save fingertips clicking across a soft keyboard, and the purr of a coffee-colored feline sleeping, the night is filled with absolute silence. There is a stillness lingering, the subtle essence of vanilla and sugar settling into the air. In these first minutes of a new day and an anniversary, or two.<br />
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The first anniversary is a joyful one, a day when my mom and dad stood before their family and friends exchanging vows and their devotion for one another.<br />
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My mom wore a high-collared long sleeved tea-length wedding dress, my father a dapper black suit and tie. I know this from the black and white photos nestled into old scrapbooks and archived photo sleeves. The images are from before and after, I haven't yet found one taken at the church. I recognize the sweeping banister in the dining room and the arch at the entryway between the living room and the foyer, all taken at the house. This house, their house, our house.<br />
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Later when I remember the second anniversary, the not so pleasant one, the sequential montage will come to mind in a flash of archways and bannisters, wooden parquet floors and cornice moldings, swirling around a hospital bed. I will remember the muted television and the flash of Lauren Bacall on a train traveling through the desert, the silence interrupted by an intermittent beat of a respirator, my father snoring on the couch. The absence of a grey striped cat, and the eerie stillness that lingers indefinitely when you realize that the quiet you are hearing is your mother's last breath saying goodbye. <br />
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Remembering Mama, 14 Years Gone, Forever in Our Hearts<br />
Lucy Romano Preziotti<br />
9/19/28 - 1/23/00</div>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12494050453704062429noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7510618652943658299.post-58503160923382441582014-01-22T19:37:00.001-05:002014-01-22T19:37:05.852-05:00New Year, New Me<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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Twenty-two days in to a brand new year and what do I have planned? Change, and lots of it. Change of life, change of perspective and in the not so distance future, a change of address. That last one will be a challenge, once you <a href="http://bkgardenapt.blogspot.com/2013/09/south-brooklyn-as-i-know-it.html" target="_blank">live in a place</a> for most of your lifetime it becomes more than a physical entity and part of your lifeline. Yes, I'm talking about the invisible lifelines on your palm, and the superimposed ones that trace the bloodlines from your heart center to your mind. The intangible becomes solid and everything takes on another sheen of reality. All at the hand of one moment that acts as the catalyst for all those fleeting thoughts of what ifs pondered on roads not yet taken.<br />
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If this doesn't make sense it's okay, I don't think it's supposed to. That's what grief does: scrambles the frequency of thoughts conjured by a once rational at times dreamy daughter and neutralizes them, until she's ready to deal. Which may be today, or tomorrow, or yesterday, and that all takes time. The healing, it takes time. </div>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12494050453704062429noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7510618652943658299.post-58148342082564255492014-01-20T16:16:00.000-05:002014-02-14T16:16:40.980-05:00Keeping it steady<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12494050453704062429noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7510618652943658299.post-40480696063932834992013-09-15T00:28:00.000-04:002014-01-21T15:17:44.071-05:00South Brooklyn, as i know it<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
11pm on a Saturday. Not so long ago that meant teased hair and tight jeans, stepping into a red shiny car only to drive up and down the avenue (as 86th street was <a href="http://www.tcm.com/mediaroom/video/294764/Saturday-Night-Fever-Movie-Clip-Open-Stayin-Alive.html" target="_blank">known back then</a>). Today that same strip is quiet, deserted save a taxi or two. The roller rink has been replaced by a national liquidator and a <a href="http://www.livingroomsteakhouse.com/" target="_blank">local supper club</a>, Lenny's Pizza holds its ground a few blocks <a href="http://www.lennys86.com/" target="_blank">north</a>, and that movie theatre is now a Rite Aid, neither of which are open right this second.<br />
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South Brooklyn. That's where I am from. The South Brooklyn of the 70s before the real estate market redefined neighborhoods and invented fancy acronyms like <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/South_Brooklyn" target="_blank">BoCoCa</a> (aka Boerum Hill, Cobble Hill, Carroll Gardens). When looking at a map, the actual South Brooklyn includes Coney Island, Gravesend, Bensonhurst and Homecrest--parts of the borough that unlike every other area just close enough to the Big Island of Manhattan have survived without regentrification.<br />
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When my dad was growing up, <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Luna_Park" target="_blank">Luna Park</a> (as the amusement park was called back then before renamed <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Astroland" target="_blank">Astroland</a>) was an integral part of his childhood. One of his uncles or cousins leased the <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tornado_(Coney_Island)" target="_blank">Tornado</a>, a predecessor (along with the Thunderbolt) to the famous Cyclone roller coaster, and he spent many a summer handing out and collecting tickets from enthusiastic thrill seekers. My Aunt Millie had her own claim to fame working at the <a href="http://www.bklynpubliclibrary.org/ourbrooklyn/brightonbeach/gallery.html#id=bbeach&num=27" target="_blank">Brighton Beach Bathhouses</a>. I'm not sure what (or where) Uncle Dom was at the time.<br />
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This is where my roots are, where my family tree was planted and flourished. In a 3-story brick house, 2.5 miles northeast of the magic of carney in Coney. There is a slate path of multi-colored slabs leading toward my front door, alongside where once stood a towering pussy willow tree, the branches of which my mom and I would harvest each Fall. The backyard equal parts concrete and grass conjures memories of leap frog, sprinklers in summer heat, of baloney sandwiches and games of hide and seek.<br />
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It is here that my brother's children played corn hole with my dad, here where I taught neighboring children how to make snow angels after the season's first snowfall. There are so many memories lingering in the eaves of this house, in the branches of the bare bushes in hard winter soil, seeping into the concrete foundation that I call home.<br />
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12494050453704062429noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7510618652943658299.post-5407773049290230842013-09-11T00:41:00.003-04:002013-09-11T07:33:26.531-04:00healing hearts through runes<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
Every day since my father passed I have consulted <a href="http://www.amazon.com/The-Healing-Runes-Boxed-Velvet/dp/033365885X" target="_blank">The Healing Runes</a>, to guide my intentions and work through the grief. It has become my mourning ritual, jostling the green velvet bag to shuffle and unsettle the twenty-five etched stones. Then reaching in and grazing them with my fingertips before resting on one, the one that calls out to me.<br />
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It might seem counterintuitive for a Catholic-raised turned spiritualist to have faith in a sea of stones but the meditation of intention each day has been a gift. Clearing my mind, guiding me toward a path of least resistance as I make my way through these murky waters, an untethered raft floating. In the beginning, as if <a href="http://www.ekrfoundation.org/five-stages-of-grief/" target="_blank">Elisabeth Kubler-Ross</a> herself was guiding my fingers I found myself choosing humor, denial, forgivness, guilt. They paved the way for the last few days of gratitude, faith and the Divine. The Divine rune encourages one to be present in their own hearts, to look inside ourselves to uncover the love within; for some that might be translated into strength, courage. You need all three to make it through one day, to feel any semblance of accomplishment for waking up and facing the kaleidoscope. <br />
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Today was unsettling. There wasn't one moment that defined it as such. It was more an amalgamation of many things, little snippets of living that tipped the emotional scale. Of talking with friends, and not talking to others, and how that unconscious decision made me realize that the one person who I could almost always talk to is no longer of this earth. Dad always had (or made) time to listen, even when he was exhausted or in some cases distracted, he would listen. Settling into his chair, swiveling to face me, rock solid determined to hear what I had to say and grasp my point of view (even when it was unclear to him what I was talking about), he would try to make sense of it all and ask probing questions to guide me towards working it out, toward diffusing the clutter in my mind. All I have now are cobweb enshrouded thoughts and a lingering fog, holding steady.<br />
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Midnight. The beginning of a new day, the twelth anniversary of September 11th a tragic catastrophe of a day where the world felt the same level of anguish--a gasp, a sigh, a drop in the pit of our stomachs, a collective feeling of loss and despair.<br />
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I reach for the velvet bag and pull out the rune for prayer. A first time appearance in this ritualistic sequence, the prelude for all things, for all intentions. I flip to page 103 and read through the meditation which encourages the reader to place all that which concerns them into the hands of the Divine through prayer, so that it might work to quiet the troubled spirit and summon the greater good for healing. <br />
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12494050453704062429noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7510618652943658299.post-67786735557487497142013-08-31T12:35:00.000-04:002013-08-31T12:50:42.750-04:00every day is a journey<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
On good days it feels normal, as if he's somewhere else: at the doctor, visiting his sister, sleeping in. I can't feel his absence. On bad days, it's more noticeable.<br />
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Silence. 8am on a Saturday is quiet, that is normal. Later after I've had coffee and breakfast, I'll unconsciously be listening for the shuffling of feet, the murmuring white noise of a radio talk show host, the running of water. I know none of it will come, and yet I still wish for it.<br />
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Sleep comes easy, and I fall back asleep this time on the couch. At 11am I stir to the sound of cicadas and ghost noises. The house conjured them in my waking cycle, and they are almost real. Startling how the senses are adept at translation.<br />
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I've been through this once before. The first time I was younger, naive and immature. Even though mom was diagnosed with a terminal illness, I wasn't prepared to let go of her, let alone get used to the idea of her not being here. We had almost a year and it just wasn't enough time. Thirteen years later, older, slightly wiser, more mature I was just getting used to (and coming to terms with) the idea of dad getting older and slowing down. My mind was compartmentalizing his gradual deterioration and wrapping itself around the possibilities of how we would take care of him when he slowed down to a snail's pace. Everything happened so quickly, so fast. It didn't occur to me that he would injure himself and then stop. Stop. It's such a final word, and it finds me ill prepared for this act of letting go, again.<br />
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We just passed the three week mark, next Tuesday will mark a month. Thirty days. Seven-hundred and thirty hours. Too many seconds to contemplate. It hurts my head if I think about it too much. I find myself watching marathon hours of TV--a shocker for those of you who know me (once upon a time I didn't have TV let alone cable); reading a lot, mostly books, magazines, news articles on my iPad and my Twitter feed (I'm not sure why but I've become mildly obsessed with scouring through posts, tweeting and retweeting) and when I can sleeping, I alternate between an obscene number of shut-eye or none at all.<br />
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This weekend I was down at the shore celebrating my niece's birthday with family. The weather blue skies and climate temperate foe all day swimming in the saltwater pool, and the children (and their friends) took full advantage, splashing and dashing around the backyard. A full day outdoors calls for a slumber worthy of kings and queens but instead I found myself restless and tormented by nightmares, the kind that grip your heart tight enough to force you awake. I was sharing a room with my nephew in the blue and white room, facing Main Avenue. The sounds of the passing traffic ultimately lulled me to sleep.<br />
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I woke in the morning to a rambunctious symphony of voices and made my way down to the kitchen. Assigned party duties, we each played our part in the party preparation and then lazily made our way back to poolside with sunscreen and towels and a side order of books in tow. The day unfurled as family and friends made their way to the house to chat and play, swim and soak up the sun, and commemorate summer the old fashioned way with a pool party and BBQ. It was whimsically fun.<br />
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<a href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-bkJdnI9T2SI/Uhrepz3xAaI/AAAAAAAARsE/mou21JneBWY/s1600/1004539_10151683379533853_621139471_n.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" height="200" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-bkJdnI9T2SI/Uhrepz3xAaI/AAAAAAAARsE/mou21JneBWY/s200/1004539_10151683379533853_621139471_n.jpg" width="200" /></a>It would have been even lovelier if Dad were there, as my nephew Christopher pointed out. Dad surely would have been pleased with the weather and enjoyed the festivities, from the sunshine to the artisanal hand-packed ice cream from Hoffman's to the tasting of Italian wine recently acquired by my brother's brother in law, Danny. And he would have certainly cheered, if not participated in the multi-generational game of corn hole being played poolside by my nephew (his grandson), Uncle Dom (dad's brother) and his two adult grandsons (our cousins), Chris and John. That scene made me sad, wistful.<br />
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And I should have known that the ride home would do me in; I curse my unconscious for failing to trigger some sort of warning, do not drive back late by yourself. As I sat in traffic on the Garden State it was hard not to remember the last time I drove this way Dad was in the seat next to me, half awake, half asleep, talking about nothing, or something about politics. Estimating the time based on how far we've traveled, guesstimating the time of day by the position of the moon and the light in the night sky. He was almost always dead on too, which of course in its own special way drove me mildly crazy and insane. <br />
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12494050453704062429noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7510618652943658299.post-18659164385567232852013-08-14T10:34:00.002-04:002013-08-21T17:28:18.601-04:00inexplicable grief<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12494050453704062429noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7510618652943658299.post-68943259505360698812013-07-25T19:11:00.000-04:002013-08-14T10:12:07.384-04:00drive me crazy<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
I've made myself a <a href="http://www.rachaelraymag.com/recipe/drunken-milkshake/" target="_blank">drunken milkshake</a> as an aperitif to dinner tonight, because after the last 5 days I've earned it. My dad had a fainting spell on Saturday, a repercussion from the mad heatwave the East Coast has been under, a murky and hazy summer deluge. I've been home coaching him toward recovery, urging him to drink water and fight the urge to go downstairs and watch TV in favor of sitting in a cool air conditioned room. I love him but he drives me crazy with his obstinate and stubborn-resistance to change, especially when the intent is to make his life easier. </div>
Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12494050453704062429noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7510618652943658299.post-69774374408828495572013-06-03T08:45:00.003-04:002013-08-21T17:32:52.216-04:00the beach is my sacred space<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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I consider my beach time sacred, whether I am alone or with friends. It's a moment in time where I am in touch with nature and completely relaxed. I feel lucky to live in a city and state that has an accessible shoreline very close to where I live (it's about a 15-20 min drive with no traffic). And I don't know that I could live anywhere that didn't offer something similar, a body of water, a natural spring to offer that level of solace and happiness. <br />
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Shorelines come with a price of course, there's always the chance of of storms and flooding. Last fall, my beach was brutalized by Hurricane Sandy. I was away during it all and hadn't been back since late summer, and I wasn't sure what to expect when I got there yesterday. Kudos to Gateway National Park because the beach itself was intact and even though the shoreline was a bit jagged it was equally picturesque.<br />
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The best thing about my beach is that it's also part of a park. A park that includes miniature golf, an 18-hole range, a playground for kids and picnic areas. It also has courts (tennis, paddleball, handball) that run along the perimeter of the boardwalk that runs adjacent to the beach. There are multiple entry points to the beach from the parking lot. In the mild winter of 2011, I drove out to Riis to take a walk and after discovering a paddleball set in the garage, found the workout quite enjoyable. The court itself is overrun with weeds, and strewn with broken beer bottles, but the concrete wall is sold and the court still offers an opportunity to exercise (with caution). There's something gratifying about bouncing that pink ball against the wall, chasing it around the court, pumping blood through my veins, working up a sweat. I put in my earbuds, the ocean as my backdrop and the Zen takes over. <br />
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Yesterday I planned to play for an hour before rewarding myself with a toe dip in the ocean and a read by the sea. I was in the groove for almost an hour until I was interrupted by someone crossing the court. I caught a flash of black fabric in my periphery vision and pulled out my earbuds before turning around to check. There's absolutely no need for anyone to enter let alone cross the court. It was pretty apparent that this dude's intention was off. He looked older but could have easily been in my age range. His salt and pepper hair was uncombed and his teeth yellow and untended. He was wearing long black shorts and carrying a plastic bag. He was talking, I broke the first rule of self-preservation by engaging in his conversation. I don't know why I did, in my mind I thought maybe he needed something innocent like knowing what time it was. No, he asked me if I this was my regular spot, and I politely informed him it was my first time here. (Stupid, I know; I don't know why I said that.) Then he wanted to know if we could spend time playing paddleball and tennis together sometime. I politely declined thinking that he would leave. A rebuff usually works and then he reached out to introduce himself, and it was like a five alarm fire going off in my head. I was more bold then, clearly stating that I was not interested and that he should leave me alone. I backed away to the park bench, collected my things and walked, slightly convolutedly so he wouldn't follow me, to my car. <br />
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I was fuming by the time I got there, annoyed at myself for interacting and at the loss of a perfectly good workout. I sat in the front seat to cool down and then gathered myself for an afternoon on the beach. I found a quiet spot amongst the hipsters in the west bay, and pulled out a book and a granola bar, settling in to admire the view. The water was rolling, its waves criss-crossing in a game of Twister. The weather forecast suggested rain at the beginning of the work week and the ocean confirmed that something was coming.<br />
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The wind inspired a fellow beach-goer to try his hat at kiteboarding, which unfortunately was foiled by the local park ranger. I walked to the water to watch the folks brave enough to swim the icy waters; I wanted to preserve my most recent memory of swimming in the Arabian Sea, so just toe-dipping for me. I turned back to the beach to return to my blanket, I spotted "Michael" the creepy dude from the paddleball court surveying the beach. Whether he was looking for me specifically or someone else I have no idea; all I could feel was the flare of annoyance and anger returning.<br />
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I had to walk past him to get to my space, and I instinctively knew he was going to approach me, again. I was prepared to make a scene if he tried anything, any thing at all. He turned around and acted pleasantly (sick in the head right there) surprised as if it was serendipity that brought us together, and just as he opened his mouth I told him twice: "I am not interested. Leave me alone." I never once stopped, walking away from him as I said those words. Walking toward my blanket, not sitting until I could see that he was farther down the beach. I really hope that I don't see him again, my beach is my sacred space and some wacky dude is NOT going to ruin it for me. I'll be carrying chili powder for my safety next time, if our paths should cross again, I'll be finding that park ranger to file a report. <br />
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12494050453704062429noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7510618652943658299.post-81648983770426742462013-05-30T07:49:00.001-04:002013-05-30T07:49:13.339-04:00rigor mortis<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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Earlier this week I spied two kittens in the backyard. One was older than the other, which seemed newly born and skittish, like an extra from a kitten calendar photo shoot. The one that caught my eye was the older one, amber-eyes and soft fluffy grey fur on his body with white feet. Our eyes locked when I saw him drink from the milk bowl I set out for them.<br />
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It was the wee kitten, perhaps because she was sick that ventured closer to me on Tuesday morning. I had gone out back to check on the drain from the earlier rains and there she was under the porch, a shaking ball of fur. I took her inside and tried to get some milk into her. Her eyes were dilated and she looked almost cujo-like. It was a bit off putting so I picked her up, put her in a shoebox with fleece fabric and a bowl of milk and set her up in the backyard. Then I came back inside and sanitized the counter.<br />
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The weather has been San Fransciscan in mood and swing, one day overcast and chilly, the next springlike and sunny. They are predicting a heat wave for the weekend. It's hard to know what to wear. Tuesday was partly cloudy, and started with a with a sprinkling of light rain. There was a torrential downpour during the day that lasted well into the evening. The streets were so slippery that on the way home from the train station I fell, bruising up my hands and knees (and luckily not tearing up my dress).<br />
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Once home I bandaged myself and made my way to the backyard to check on the little one. There I made a startling, and grim discovery. The poor kitten had succumbed to whatever illness and passed earlier in the day. Her body, frozen in time, lay at the bottom of the staircase. It's such a natural occurrence, death among the species in the circle of life, one that happens every moment of every day, and yet it felt so foreign to me. I felt shellshocked and I can't say why it frightened me so much but I could feel the stiffening fear (the irony inescapable) of having to do what had to be done next.<br />
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It took a moment to self-compose and detach long enough to gather gardening tools and rubber gloves, to select a suitable location in the backyard. I was careful to not touch the body outright, instead using a shovel to transfer it from the ground to a my makeshift shroud of a biodegradable bag. I wrapped the body as best as I could and carred it to the shallow grave, and then buried her under the overgrown bush in the backyard, covering the grave with mulch. A simple yet small act of kindness for one of God's creatures. A prayer that the next act of kindness will be for one of God's living creatures. <br />
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I am back at it, in the "real world" slipping into the routine of an every day life: working, commuting, eating, sleeping--trying my best to hold onto the peace of mind from being away, trying hard not to lose myself, not to lose perspective.<br />
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I've had a ridiculously productive morning: preparing a meal for dinner, a homemade lunch for work and making french toast for breakfast, all while still having enough time to eat it and write a bit before jumping in the shower. I like this kind of productivity it makes me feel alive and in my own skin, where I can feel the immediate impact of my efforts.<br />
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Getting up early in the morning, that's something I used to do ages ago. There was a time I would wake up at 5am, complete the 8 mile bike loop around the bridge, come home, shower, eat breakfast and then leave for work. That has been a foreign idea to me for quite some time. But I like the idea of it, of setting up a ritual to ground oneself before the day begins. The day, every day should be your own, driven by your own intentions and not those of others in your personal life or your professional one. That's one of the lessons I learned on my India trip.<br />
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When I plan a leisure trip I normally have a good sense of what I'm doing at any given time. While there's never a tight regiment of what is happening when, I like to map out my activities day by day to give it some kind of thematic structure--even if that means lolling about the beach reading a book. It's my way of being mindful to myself and my experience. This time around though I relinquished control, I let go; allowing for others to take the lead in planning and organizing. No doubt it was a liberating experience, and although I'm grateful for the things I learned about myself (and others, friends and strangers), I don't know that I would do that again. <br />
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When you let go, it can shift perspective, but it can also shift persona and you may find that you lose a part of yourself in the process. That part scared me a bit, that my confidence level could shift to an extreme where my true nature was hidden from view. Whether it was the trip, a mind shift or something else entirely, it has made me more thoughtful about who I am and who I want to be. </div>
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Goa has provided a series of firsts for me. My first time swimming in the Arabian Sea, my first Ayurveda massage, my first taste of feni and my first long distance trip on a motorbike (and with it my first near-encounter with a monkey).<br />
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One thing I haven't had the chance to do is take a native yoga class. I downloaded a podcast to guide me in my morning rituals and it has been pure heaven to run through a downward facing dog sun salutation in the early mornings of a Goan day. When one adds in the gloriousness of swimming in the Arabian Sea it has added a meditative layer that has inspired my writing and brought clarity to my mind and spirit. I was told by more than one person before my trip that visiting India would be mind-altering, and it has been.<br />
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Four of the five days were spent in Benaulim at the beach near Johncy's food shack. We would stake out a patio table facing the ocean and set up camp, earning our keep eating while some of us read and all of us chatted, each of us taking turns swimming. The beach was peppered by strays living a dog's life of scraps, sand and sun. More than once I thought about how easy it would be to just go off the grid, and live a bohemian life. <br />
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On Monday afternoon, Ramani mentioned that she planned to get a massage. I had heard about these Ayurveda treatments from both Lisa and Claudia and knew that I couldn't pass up the opportunity to experience one. Vikki, the male masseur uses a sea salt scrub on my face and a series of aromatherapy oils in the treatment and massage. A great bargain at $20 for a 75 minute massage.<br />
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Throughout our stay at Zen Gardens we are serenaded at daybreak by dogs who think they are part rooster, and visited daily by the resident cats. One kitten in particular, a white short-hair who wears a black collar and bell, searches me out each evening for a tummy rub. <br />
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On Tuesday afternoon, Divyanka and George who are on a post-wedding holiday staying at Taj Exotica meet us for lunch at Johncy's. After a late swim, Ramani suggests that I try a local liquor called feni. A spirit made from either coconut or cashew, it is local to the state of Goa and cannot be found outside the area. Feni has a potent flavor and reminded me most of the firewater that George, Claudia and I tasted on our trip to Yelapa. I tried the cashew and it had a medicinal herbal aftertaste which was equalized by the addition of fresh lime soda. I tried the coconut varietal (Ramani had ordered that for herself) which was mixed with orange soda. A few of us linger back on the beach to swim, as I sit in the shallow water by the shore running my fingers in the sand, it occurs to me that it feels like wet suede. A kite flies overhead. <br />
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Indigo Air is a campier version of Jet Blue Its pleasant staff energetic and fun. The in-flight meal packages are equally entertaining, sold in reusable containers and tins with inspirational advertorials about how to obtain inner peace whilst in the air and what foods to eat if you are in need of a little confidence. Before I can even settle in for a nap, the pilot announces that we are preparing for arrival in Goa. In just under an hour we're in a sunnier space with the sea air wafting its way around the tarmac. <br />
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Ramani's close friends Sabrina and Param have graciously offered the use of their summer home for our time in Goa. We arrive at Zen Gardens, where a lovely row of mint green townhouses form a courtyard around a pool and patio. We take a moment to settle in, unpack and then change into swimsuits, pile into the car toward the beach. Late afternoon, the sun is making its way toward setting itself on the horizon as we climb the dunes and make our way past the Domnick seaside shack and toward the sea. <br />
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The sea does not match that which I've imagined. It is not crystalline blue like the wallpaper I've downloaded from the web but a sea green like the Atlantic in Far Rockaway, foamy waves breaking the shoreline. The only difference is water temperature, here the Arabian is warm and inviting in mid-May refreshing to the touch.<br />
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In so many ways the early morning hours in Bangalore remind me of Sicily. The dogs barking, the birds chirping, frogs (or insects) purring. The heat of the sun behind the clouds, burning off the early morning fog. Even the sweeping sound of brooms whisking the street of dust and frangipani petals.<br />
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And like Sicily, I wish I could package the wind and how it first feels on your skin. Its been a gift to have a balcony during my stay at Brunton Heights and the only way it could have been better is if there had been a screen to protect the inner room from the mini mosquitoes and flies that so love my skin and blood.<br />
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I've been in India just shy of a week, and my sleeping patterns are slightly off. thought perhaps a part of it is the excitement of being somewhere new, there will be plenty of time to catch up on sleep when I return home next week. Still falling asleep so early on Friday night makes for a very early Saturday, my body and mind refused to sleep past 4.30am. I've been putzing, reading (The Yard by Alex Grecian), perusing the news (Deccan Herald) and planning my day. I will be exploring Garuda Mall, immersing myself in some shopping and spa, and if its possible I will catch a tribal jazz event at CounterCulture, a live music venue in the northeast part of Bangalore. It will be a nice close to Bangalore, before our trip to Goa tomorrow.<br />
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I spent the day shopping at FabIndia and then treated myself to a fish pedicure at the Kenko Spa at the Garuda Mall. After reading about it on Trip Advisor I was particularly intrigued. as the "doctor fish," a toothless fish which resemble guppies feed on dead skin cells and more or less suck it off whatever body part you submerge in their pool. I arrived and was led by the technician into a bathing room where they first rinse your feet with antiseptic and a natural soap cleanse. They then escort you to the pools and instruct you to immerse your feet into the pool. The fish swarm your feet and within seconds you feel a tickle--I would imagine it might be excruciating to anyone who is crazy ticklish but for me I laughed out loud for a moment and then was immediately mesmerized by the "feeding" frenzy. Ten minutes later the soles of my feet were fantastically smooth. I later learned that the recommended time is 30 minutes to get a proper cleaning so I feel a bit cheated and will definitely have to do it again some time.<br />
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Evening time finds me at Mehkri Circle waiting for Venus and Advaitha to return from visiting family. We are scheduled to attend the May Queen Ball, a local pageant and fashion show at the Bangalore Club. The sky has erupted in rain, it sounds lovely against the city streets, the wet breeze sweeps in dampened by dirt and asphalt and co-mingled with the heat of the day creates a fragrance only a summer rain can conjure.<br />
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